Do you want to give your wife, your friend, your significant other a rare and sought after gift? It can't be purchased at the mall.  As a matter of fact, it is priceless.  There's a possibility you have given this gift to those in your life.  If not, you don't know what you are missing.  It puts relationships in a whole new realm.  My husband will never top this gift  that he gave to me when we married.  I gave him a promise of the same gift throughout our  marriage.  This rare gift is truth and we both could not  be happier with it!

Personally I don't think there is such a thing as "little white lies".  What is so little about an untruth and what is white about them?   Once lies are started,  they get easier to produce. Our conscience goes to sleep and we can be quite comfortable with  "just a little lie".   We get used to our life style and before we realize it, we don't even think about the deceptions that have become a part of our life.  It's been said that anything you do for 30 days becomes a habit.

It's true that we live in a sea of lies, deceptions, half-truths and exaggerations.  The sad truth is that movies and TV glamorizes  this bad human trait.   We are entertained even in our homes with adulterous relationships and the lies that have to be told to cover them up.   Many husbands and wives can't believe what is spoken to them by the very  person that says, "I love you." Once a lie is told in a relationship, there is a question from that  time forward each time that  person makes a statement.  Is it true?  Is he/she lying?

The element of truth is the missing ingredient  in many man-woman relationships today. There is a world of broken hearts from  deceit and  it hurts to the core of who we are.  We can't change another person but we can decide in our own heart who we will be.  We choose our level of living.   We choose to be faithful to our spouse.  We choose to be an honest employee or employer. We choose to be an honest friend.  We choose our level of integrity. What a way to live! Free! Mark Twain  once said, "Always tell the truth. That way you don't have to remember what you said."

It's good to  remember that we don't live to ourself.  Someone is being affected by our lifestyle. Someone is watching.  It may be the children who need desperately to know their dad  and mom is someone that always tells the truth.  They  may grow up to be just like you.

The pleasure of a clear conscience  is a good thing in this day of stress, turmoil and struggles.  Be good to yourself and those you love.  Go up to a higher level and pledge zero tolerance on the deception scale. In the end, it's a gift of love you give when you are truthful. Not only to the other person, but to yourself as well.   Your gut feeling of who you think you are really matters.  It's called self respect. Integrity is still alive and well and you will benefit physically, emotionally and spiritually for making honesty a part of your life.

 "Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot 
be trusted with important affairs."  
Albert Einstein

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 "I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me
 for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies."
Pietro Aretino