On Marriage

Have you heard the phrase, "Out Of The Blue"? It means, coming from
nowhere or sudden and unexpected. My sister used that phrase recently
while talking to a group of people from her community. She made the
statement that we should do nice things for people who don't expect it,
just out of the blue! All of the sudden nice things started happening in
the community. A woman opened her door one evening to find a
lucious watermelon placed there anonymously. She smiled. Other good
things cropped up and people laughed as they told their stories, not
knowing who had thought of them with good wishes.

When I heard the story I thought of all the good things couples
could do for each other. It wouldn't be anonymous, but it could
be spontaneous and that would be out of the blue. It would be easy
to catch your husband off guard and for sure you would not expect
anything in return.

Love takes time and effort, especially if the waters
of romance have been muddied with busyness of the day. But kindness
begets kindness and it is worth the wait to see a smile on our
husband's face or even his surprised look when he sees a kindness.

If your marraige is no longer romantic, consider it a challenge to revive
it to new life. Do you feel you have enough challenges? Then prioritize!
Don't let someone else put a smile on your husband's face with their
kindness and considerate ways. This is doable, you know! Surprise him!
He picked you out of all the women in his life. That means you have
qualities that attracted him. Prove to him that he made one of his best
choices when he chose you.

Sometimes we think we don't have time
for extras in our married life. But we
all have 1,440 minutes everyday. It's up
to us how we use them. Sometimes we
may think, "O.K., maybe next week." What
if next week never comes. It doesn't for some
people. Seize the moment. They are fleeting.
We can not recall a single one of them

Below are some suggestions to think about as you make your list of surprises for
that special one in your life. .

~Put a love note for him on the frig with the words written across it, "Hands
off unless your name is____" (his name).

~Call him in the middle of the day with a "sweet nothing" message.

~Clip his favorite comic strip and put it in his plate for the evening meal.

~Put on soft music for his home coming. Sent the kids to their room
when you see him drive up.Tell them you need a private moment
with Dad. A warm embrace and a smile and question about his day
doesn't take long. Then you can call the kids out. They will love seeing
Mom and Dad in a good mood!

~Give him a foot massage after the kids are in bed. This is sooo refreshing
and relaxing.

~Spray a hint of your perfume on his pillow before bedtime.

~Find a sitter for the kids. Make motel reservations, even if it's just
across town.

~Think like a single person, but toward your spouse.