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Marriage
Facts and Feelings
In one of my first writings on marriage, Points To Ponder (#1), one of the ingredients listed for a happy marriage is love of husband. We may laugh and say love is situational. When our husband hands us the car keys with a sizable amount of money and says, Go shopping, have a good time. , it's easy to feel love for that man. When dinner is cold and there has been no phone call saying why he's late again, love stops cold in its tracts.
But can we call these feelings that are ever-changing love? If so, maybe that is the reason there is so much discontent and divorce. If love is equated with a feeling, it can come and go, and that is anything but stable ground to build a marriage on.
Two people in love who are committed to each other say, " No matter what, we are sticking together." Commitment in the dictionary says, to give for safe keeping, for preservation. So many married people don't feel they are in safe keeping. It is easier than ever for the feeling to fade. The next step is divorce court.
So what is real love? For sure it is more than a shopping spree or new car. It goes to the very core of who we are. It says to our spouse, You're someone more special to me than me! I'd rather you be happy than me be happy. Yes ladies, real love for our husband is a selfless love.
Author Charlie Shed tells in his book, "Letters To Karen", about a young girl who wrote an essay about love and marriage. In it she wrote, I think to make a marriage great, you have to treat each other like company a lot of the time and be polite and stuff like that. Do we really treat our spouse like company? I am sure we did before marriage.
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