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For The Men
~Blueprints~
A Take Charge Kind Of Guy
Here's a thought that might surprise you! There's a good chance that your wife or wife-to-be or significant other likes a "Take Charge" kind of guy. Understand, I am not saying she wants a dictator. That type of relationship is degrading and certainly no one wants to live in that kind of atmosphere.
Working women are loaded with responsibility in the work place. All day long they make decisions, deal with men, compete with them. How nice to come home and know there's someone to lean on. Stay at home moms need relief from the day's work as well. Some woman don't have a "leaning post" at the end of the day. Their man is too weak, too pre-occupied, too much at the office or too tuned in to t.v. to be of help.
I have to admit that "taking charge" is a sensitive, personal area we are talking about. Your own situation is unique. If your wife grew up with a domineering father, caution. Be easy with your endeavors to lead. If there are problems of rebellion, unforgiving toward men, resentment for various things, she may find your take charge attitude threating and a very negative experience. In that case, she will be bound to show you she can do it all herself and she does not need your help.
Each marriage is a unique challenge and requires blending of two sets of likes and dislikes. Regardless of how hard it becomes, it's best to try to meet the challenges because your union reaches far into the future, whether children are involved or not.
If kindness and love are shown in your attempt to take charge as leader of the home, you can't go wrong. You must admit, there is a scarcity of kindness in today's world. You know you don't see much of it in your work place. This is true for your wife as well. Co-workers can be cruel
"The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. It is
the greenest where nurtured and cared for. If your grass
is not green, what are you doing - or not doing - to have it that way?"
~Wedding Ceremony Sermon~
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"If two people who love each other let a single instant wedge itself between them, it grows -
it becomes a month, a year, a century; it becomes too late."
~Jean Giraudoux~
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