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Your Husband,
Your Protector
definition of chivalry: qualifications of a knight, such as courage, nobility, fairness,
courtesey, respect for woman
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Think about your physical characteristics and those of
your husband. Men are larger with stronger muscles and
have more physical endurance. Women, by nature, are more
fragile. We are the weaker of the sexes and there's no reason
to apologize for it. In my opinion this is synonymous with
femininity. So does this more fragile, delicate role leave us
in need of a protector? Absolutely! It's o.k. to need someone.
That does not make us inferior. It makes us human. This is not to say we can't get along by ourself. Of course we can. We women have learned to make it on our own if need be. But what about man?
In times past, during the settling of our country, times were
hard. The territory was dangerous. Life was cruel. There
was great need for a man to shelter his woman. Modern
times have only brought about new dangers. Today there is
rape, murder, robbery, situationsthat call for a strong protector. What about the masculine
chores that need taking care of by a man? And what about financial struggles, children
overload, and unreasonable community demands? And what about mice, snakes, spiders and
scary noises! I don't know about you but I need a protector!
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Have you noticed, as a whole, women are not asking to be protected anymore? Chilvary is
disappearing. My question is, "Who's at fault? We see women out late at night, walking
down dark streets alone. We see women lifting heavy objects, driving heavy equipment,
even flagging traffic in construction areas. Have you been to your favorite home
improvement center lately? Check out the small tools department! There are pink hammers
and even flowered ones! (Although I must admit it is nice to have a dainty hammer for
picture hanging,etc.!) It seems that womanhood has arrived at the place we've fought for so
long.....equality with men.
So what do men do with their inborn sense of chivalry? We
know they don't offer it much anymore. Why should they
when women have become"capable"of taking care of
themselves?Helen Andelin, author of Fascinating Womanhood,
says,"Women have become able to kill their own snakes."
Is this to our advanage? I think not!
Do you suppose our ever-encreasing divorce rate is partly
caused by "capable" women that have no need of a man?
When husbands don't feel needed a major problem is lurking in the home. Whether we like it or not, men wereindeed created to take care of us, to protect us and provide our needs. They didn't ask for this role. Our creator made man that way. When he has no one to need him, he feels not needed, not cherished, useless. Don't fall for his "don't care" attitude. He cares. That's his way of saving face. What a sad scenerio!
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Man's role as protector does not make us any less a person. With someone to watch over us
and take care of the big things in our life, we are free to be totally feminine, soft, sensous
women that compliment our masculine counterpart. What a delightful plan. I never
tire of having my husband open the car door , cut the grass, repair the roof and
"kill the snakes".
There are ways you can help your man regain his sense of chivalry. Think about the
suggestions below:
- Compliment your husband with words like, "I'm glad I have a strong man to protect
me. You make me feel safe." He needs your admiration! Don't send him looking
for it elsewhere!
- Think of jobs you need to back away from and leave for him. Then compliment him
some more. (This has to be from your heart. Remember you once thought this man
youmarried was really smart. He still can detect dishonesty.)
- Sit in the car until he realizes you are waiting for him to open the door. Tell him how
this makes you feel like a lady. My husband and I started a tradition when we were
first married. He opens the door for me, I kiss him for it and then get in. He tells his
friends he does it to get a kiss!
- Be the epitomy of femininty. Let him see your soft side, the side that needs protection.
He will rise to the occassion. Stop telling him you can make your own way in life.
That's the last thing he want to hear from you!
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" Still round the corner there may wait,
a new road or a secret gate."
J.R.R. Tolkein
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